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Arkiv for februar 2013

“Å le er å risikere å bli tatt for å være dum
Å gråte er å risikere å bli oppfattet som svak
Å komme en annen i møte er å risikere å bli involvert
Å vise følelser er å risikere å vise sitt egentlige jeg
Å gi uttrykk for sine drømmer er å risikere å tape ansikt
Å vise omsorg er å risikere å ikke få noe igjen
Å leve er å risikere å dø
Å håpe er å risikere fortvilelse

Når du risikerer, utsetter du deg for farer
Men den største faren i livet er å ikke risikere
Den som ikke risikerer å gjøre noen ting,
har ingenting, er ingenting
Du kan kanskje unngå lidelse og sorg, men
du kan ikke forandre deg, føle, vokse, elske, leve
Den som ikke risikerer er lenket til sine holdninger
Den som ikke risikerer har forspilt friheten og blir en slave
Bare en person som risikerer er fri.”

– Hugo Prather

“Sometimes it’s easier to fall in love with cities than it is with people. Take, for example, New York – a monolithic tangle of skyscrapers and spires, or Paris – full of poetic details and varying shades of grey, or Chicago – windy and sunny summers with shiny windows reflecting the inherent bustle at stop lights. Places that hold special moments in time, suspended within the corner cafes and parking garages, lingering in old bookstores and taxi cabs, mingling with the smoggy air of the streets. My favourite memories are cradled within these sprawling human centres.

But what do you have to offer me? You’re a person. You’re a tangle of long limbs and a mop of messy brown hair. You’re hardly a city. Yet, you gaze at me with those piercing eyes and I feel as vulnerable and exhilarated as I do in the streets of Manhattan – where the people passing by on the street and the windows of monolithic buildings are all silent, are all watching me. Perhaps you’re my own private, portable, New York, Paris, Tokyo, Chicago, whatever.”

– Letters to Crushes

1. Experience. Dream. Risk. Close your eyes and jump. Enjoy the freefall. Choose exhilaration over comfort. Choose magic over predictability. Choose potential over safety. Make friends with your intuition. Trust your gut. Discover the beauty of the uncertainty. Know yourself fully before you make promises to another. Make millions of mistakes so that you will know how to choose what you really need. Know when to hold on and when to let go. Love hard and often and without reservation. Seek knowledge. Open yourself to possibility. Keep your heart open, your head high and your spirit free. Embrace your darkness along with your light. Be wrong every once in a while, and don’t be afraid to admit it. Awaken to the brilliance in ordinary moments. Tell the truth about yourself no matter what the cost. Own your own reality without apology. See goodness in the world. Be bold. Be fierce. Be grateful. Be wild, crazy and gloriously free. Be you. – J. L

2. Stop trying to “get it together.” The biggest lie we’re told when we’re growing up is that soon as we’re adults, as soon as we’re in college, finish college, get that job, have that steady income, find that someone special, “find ourselves,” find that perfect house, get that retirement fund, have those children, everything will fall into place. Here’s a secret: It won’t. Every new development in your life, good or bad, big or small, will come with its own very special set of challenges. The sooner you accept that, the better off you’ll be. – Unknown

3. You have nothing to feel ashamed or embarrassed about. If you had diabetes, you would not be like: “I don’t want to tell my friends and family about my diabetes, because it will make them worry about me, so I’ll just continue to have this untreated diabetes until it disables or kills me.” You deal with illness by treating it, and a big part of that is being honest and upfront with your friends and family and getting the help that you need to live a healthy and productive life. – John Green

4. It’s much easier to not know things sometimes. Things change and friends leave. And life doesn’t stop for anybody. I wanted to laugh. Or maybe get mad. Or maybe shrug at how strange everybody was, especially me. I think the idea is that every person has to live for his or her own life and then make the choice to share it with other people. You can’t just sit there and put everybody’s lives ahead of yours and think that counts as love. You just can’t. You have to do things. I’m going to do what I want to do. I’m going to be who I really am. And I’m going to figure out what that is. And we could all sit around and wonder and feel bad about each other and blame a lot of people for what they did or didn’t do or what they didn’t know. I don’t know. I guess there could always be someone to blame. It’s just different. Maybe it’s good to put things in perspective, but sometimes, I think that the only perspective is to really be there. Because it’s okay to feel things. I was really there. And that was enough to make me feel infinite. I feel infinite. Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower

5. You don’t know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have. – Unknown