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Arkiv for april 2013


1. The fact that you’re struggling doesn’t make you a burden. It doesn’t make you unloveable or undesirable or undeserving of care. It doesn’t make you too much or too sensitive or too needy. It makes you human. Everyone struggles. Everyone has a difficult time coping, and at times, we all fall apart. During these times, we aren’t always easy to be around – and that’s okay. No one is easy to be around one hundred percent of the time. Yes, you may sometimes be unpleasant or difficult. And yes, you may sometimes do or say things that make the people around you feel helpless or sad. But those things aren’t all of who you are and they certainly don’t discount your worth as a human being. The truth is that you can be struggling and still be loved. You can be difficult and still be cared for. You can be less than perfect, and still be deserving of compassion and kindness. – Daniell Koepke

2. There’s a space at the bottom of an exhale, a little hitch between taking in and letting out that’s a perfect zero you can go into. There’s a rest point between the heart muscle’s close and open – an instant of keenest living when you’re momentarily dead. You can rest there. – Mary Karr, Lit: A Memoir

3. Nobody will protect you from your suffering. You can’t cry it away or eat it away or starve it away or walk it away or punch it away or even therapy it away. It’s just there, and you have to survive it. You have to endure it. You have to live through it and love it and move on and be better for it and run as far as you can in the direction of your best and happiest dreams across the bridge that was built by your own desire to heal. – Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things

4.  Have compassion for everyone you meet, even if they don’t want it. What appears bad manners, an ill temper or cynicism is always a sign of things no ears have heard, no eyes have seen. You do not know what wars are going on down there where the spirit meets the bone. – Miller Williams

5. That is why it is so important to let certain things go. To release them. To cut loose. People need to understand that no one is playing with marked cards; Sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Don’t expect to get anything back, don’t expect recognition for your efforts, don’t expect your genius to be discovered or your love to be understood. Complete the circle. Not out of pride, inability or arrogance, but simply because whatever it is no longer fits in your life. Close the door, change the record, clean the house, get rid of the dust. Stop being who you were and become who you are. – Paulo Coehlo


there’s a bluebird in my heart that
wants to get out
but I’m too clever, I only let him out
at night sometimes
when everybody’s asleep.
I say, I know that you’re there,
so don’t be sad.
then I put him back,
but he’s still singing a little
in there, I haven’t quite let him
and we sleep together like
with our
secret pact
and it’s nice enough to
make a man
weep, but I don’t
weep, do

– Charles Bukowski

Look inside your heart, I’ll look inside mine.  // Denne låta er så fin at det faktisk gjør litt vondt i hjertet. ♥


Jeg vet at du finnes. Et sted der ute; Der finnes du. Du som vil respektere meg for den jeg er. Du som vil oppmuntre meg til å være meg selv. Du som vil få meg til å føle meg så trygg i ditt nærvær at jeg vil tørre å slippe hemningene mine litt mer løs for hver dag som går; Tørre å befri meg selv, steg for steg, fra de enorme murene jeg med tiden har bygget rundt mitt eget hjerte; Tørre å rive meg litt mer løs fra min egen beskyttelse og vise deg mitt sanne jeg. Det ekte. Det usensurerte. Og du vil ikke la deg skremme.


Selv når jeg er på mitt verste, mitt mest sårbare, vil du fortsatt ikke la deg skremme; For i stedet for å glemme at du selv også har vært det i løpet av ditt eget liv, slik folk flest har lett for å gjøre, vil du huske. Du vil huske på at vi bare er mennesker, både du og jeg, og at livet ikke alltid kan være like rosenrødt. Du vil ha tro på meg, og du vil få meg til å tro helhjertet på ekte vennskap igjen; Få meg til å gi slipp på og glemme tanker som tilsier at det alltid vil ligge et svik å lure rundt ethvert dunkelt hjørne.


Du som aldri, ikke en gang i din aller villeste fantasi, ville kunne finne på å få meg til å føle meg like ubetydelig som et flyktig støvkorn, med hensikt. Du som i stedet for å få meg til å føle meg som et verdiløst menneske vil behandle meg ordentlig; På lik linje med alt og alle andre. Noe mer ønsker jeg meg ikke. Det er alt. Resten blir for meg bare bagateller; For vi trenger ikke å være likesinnede. Vi trenger ikke å ville det samme, like det samme, ønske det samme, tenke det samme, for vi kan lære av hverandre.


Hvem er du? Hvor er du? Hva gjør du? Hva tenker du? Hva føler du? Hva liker du? Hva får deg til å smile, gråte, le? Jeg vet at du finnes. Jeg bare vet det. Og jeg gleder meg til å møte deg – én vakker dag. Forhåpentligvis snart.

Du er vakrere enn du tror. // Husk på det. ♥


1. Let someone love you just the way you are – as flawed as you might be, as unattractive as you sometimes feel, and as unaccomplished as you think you are. To believe that you must hide all the parts of you that are broken, out of fear that someone else is incapable of loving what is less than perfect, is to believe that sunlight is incapable of entering a broken window and illuminating a dark room. – Marc Hack

2. I believe we write our own stories. And each time we think we know the end – we don’t. Perhaps luck exists somewhere between the world of planning, the world of chance, and in peace that comes from knowing that you just can’t know it all. You know, life’s funny that way. Once you let go of the wheel, you might end up right where you belong. – One Tree Hill

3. Konstantine is a name, but Konstantine also refers to that special person in your life. That person that you’ll never get rid of. The person that knows how to break your heart and piece it back together just as beautifully. The person who doesn’t have to say a word, yet knows all the right words to say. Most importantly, it is a first true love. The person who will always be “constant” in your life, and will always hold that special place in your heart. The one you’ll never stop loving. – Andrew McMahon

4. It doesn’t matter how tough we are. Trauma always leaves a scar. It follows us home, it changes our lives. Trauma messes everybody up, but maybe thats the point. All the pain and the fear and the crap. Maybe going through all that is what keeps us moving forward. It’s what pushes us. Maybe we have to get a little messed up before we can step up. –Grey’s Anatomy

5. She believes in love and romance. She believes her life is one day going to be transformed into something wonderful and exciting. She has hopes and fears and worries, just like anyone. Sometimes she feels frightened. Sometimes she feels unloved. Sometimes she feels she will never gain approval from those people who are most important to her. But she’s brave and good-hearted and faces her life head-on. – Sophie Kinsella